Rejection is a pain of the most acute kind. It can cause you to feel unwanted, unworthy and a whole range of other unpleasant emotions. Whether you are feeling this rejection from a lover, an employer or from another source, the unwanted feelings it evokes are universally similar.
Feeling unwanted is one of the strongest negative connotations of being rejected. This is especially true in cases of being shunned by a lover. Sometimes, someone you have feelings for may, for any number of reasons, not return your sentiments. They may be frustrated enough to push you away cruelly, or they may be sensitive enough to let you down easily. In either case, it is truly hurtful to the one being rejected. The feeling of being unwanted can lead to depression, low self-esteem and self-deprecation. Individuals who have gone through this situation multiple times are most at risk for these negative feelings. The individual may feel as though they are undesirable, unattractive, and lacking any positive qualities. This destructive thinking can destroy lives.
The soul-destroying emotions rejection brings
The destructive feeling of being unworthy can also strike an individual who has been rejected in some capacity. The individual may feel as though he or she is not good enough to be in a healthy relationship, whether romantic or professional. They may also feel that they are incapable of achieving their goals, and unfit to approach others.
In addition to these basic feelings of sadness, anger and confusion can typically accompany the pain of rejection. These negative feelings can cause the rejected individual to withdraw into themselves, lash out at others or develop long-lasting behavioral issues. Depression, low self-esteem, and inferiority complexes are just a few of the hurtful effects that such a pain can cause or aggravate.
Making the pain more manageable
However, there are ways to make the pain of rejection more manageable. When you have been rejected by a lover, this can be one of the most difficult scenarios to recover from. The important thing is to remember that you do have many positive qualities about yourself. Think back to a time where you may have had to decline someone's romantic interest in you. Perhaps they were a great person, but you just did not feel the right chemistry needed for a lasting relationship. It did not necessarily mean that there was something wrong with the person; it simply meant that you were not right for each other. The rejected individual may feel that the opposite is true, and this is why it is so hurtful. We need to remember that we are strong, capable and independent people who are able to live our lives without needing the approval of the world at large.
Being rejected in a professional setting is a pain that is more manageable, as it tends to cause anger and confusion rather than heartbreak. You may need to help yourself remember that you are a talented and capable individual. Perhaps your special skills are needed in another area where you will be of the utmost importance to help people or accomplish great things.
Finally, it is important to remember how it feels to be rejected if you are ever faced with a situation in which you must do the rejecting. Keep in mind the amount of hurt that can be received, and treat others as you would prefer to be treated. Kindness and compassion are always the best qualities to have on your side in situations such as these. Unpleasant as the scenario may be, taking this approach can help a pleasant end result become obtainable.
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